Self-Esteem: Building Who You Want to Be

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Oyekanmi Tofunmi 

I often find myself speaking less because I fear saying the wrong thing or being criticized. I'm anxious about voicing my opinions because I worry that I might sound foolish or immature. However, I realized that how people value you is largely determined by how you respect and carry yourself; you will be perceived based on how you present yourself.

Where you fall on the self-esteem scale primarily stems from how you feel about yourself and the identity you have formed from your experiences with people in school, your circle of friends, your workplace, and more.

Dr. Morris Rosenberg, a professor of Sociology at the University of Maryland from 1975 until his death in 1992, defines self-esteem as “a favorable or unfavorable attitude toward the self.” This means self-esteem is fundamentally about how we evaluate ourselves as human beings. It’s less about talent or achievement and more about self-worth.

Several questions can help reveal your level of self-esteem, whether it is high or low. These questions include:

1. How do you speak to yourself when nobody is listening?

2. How do you treat yourself after making mistakes?

3. Do you believe your needs matter?

4. Can you respect yourself even when others don’t?

Having high self-esteem is where everyone wants to be and sometimes it might seem far but it is attainable. Self-discovery and intentional effort are essential to start building self-esteem. If you struggle with this, the following insights may be helpful.

The lifestyles you observe from friends, social media, or those around you can sometimes challenge your beliefs about your worth. Constant criticism, comparison, bullying, negative childhood experiences, and family expectations are major contributors to low self-esteem, making people feel inadequate and worthless. Therefore, it is important to acknowledge both past and current experiences. Take the time to self-reflect in a notebook. Intentionally debunk the lies and fears you hold. Read books that reinforce the idea that a person’s value is rooted in their belief about themselves.

How to Build Self-Esteem

Building high self-esteem requires practical steps to overcome negative feelings:

1. Start by speaking positively to yourself daily.

2. Remember that making mistakes is not bad; you don’t have to beat yourself up for them. Failure is just a first attempt at something. 

3. Counter any negative self-talk by identifying evidence in your life that disproves these thoughts.

4. Appreciate every good thing about yourself. Instead of dwelling on past mistakes, focus on improvement.

5. Always remember that everyone is created and trained differently. Do not compare yourself to others; everyone behaves differently, and you cannot be like anyone else.

6. Always celebrate your little wins, don't wait for the big wins to tell you how awesome you are.

Remember that everyone has a unique ability that makes them different. Recognizing your own uniqueness will help improve your self-esteem. No one can define who you are better than you can. I

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ESAN Claims Uneasy Victory as Rain Disrupts Final

By: Babarinde Kuwam

What was expected to be a thrilling conclusion to the 2026 AAUA Freshers' Cup turned into a difficult contest as heavy rainfall disrupted the final match between the Faculty of Education (ESAN) and the Faculty of Management Sciences (FAMASA).

The highly anticipated encounter, held on Friday, May 5, 2026, attracted a large crowd of supporters who were eager to watch two of the tournament's strongest teams battle for the title as both sides had impressed throughout the competition, reaching the final without conceding a goal.

However, shortly before kickoff, dark clouds gathered and heavy rainfall began, transforming the playing surface into a muddy and slippery pitch. The poor weather conditions made it difficult for players to perform at their best and significantly affected the quality of the game.

As the rain persisted, some supporters called for the match to be postponed, arguing that the players were struggling to maintain the tempo of play. Despite the appeals, the AAUASU Sports Director rejected the request, insisting that the match must proceed as scheduled.

The difficult playing conditions slowed the pace of the game and limited the attacking threat of both teams. Players repeatedly struggled to maintain balance on the slippery surface, while spectators watched in frustration as the final failed to deliver the level of excitement they had anticipated.

Despite the challenges, both teams showed determination throughout the encounter. At the end of regulation time, the score remained level at 1–1, forcing the match into a penalty shootout.

The shootout proved to be a tense affair, with both sides displaying composure from the spot. In the end, ESAN emerged victorious, defeating FAMASA 6–5 on penalties to claim the 2026 AAUA Freshers' Cup title.

Although ESAN celebrated a hard-fought triumph, the final will be remembered as much for the disruptive impact of the weather as for the result itself. What promised to be a showcase of football excellence became a contest shaped by rain, leaving many supporters wondering what might have been under better conditions.

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PSG Retains UCL Title as Arsenal Prepares for Next Season Again

‎Boluwatife Kehinde 

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‎It was a night that promised glory for the Gunners, but ended in a scene best described as a "penalty-taking comedy of errors." Arsenal kicked off with the confidence of a team destined for greatness, as Kai Havertz stunned the PSG faithful by finding the back of the net just 6 minutes into the match.

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‎Arsenal managed to hold onto that fragile 1–0 lead against a relentless PSG side, but the pressure finally snapped when Mosquera committed a clumsy foul in the box. Enter Ousmane Dembélé the man currently holding the Ballon d'Or who stepped up to the spot and reminded everyone exactly why he has that golden trophy on his shelf, burying the penalty to level the score at 1–1.

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‎Despite the draw, the momentum swung heavily in PSG's favor. For the remaining minutes of regulation and the entirety of the 30 minutes of extra time, it was a one-way traffic jam in the midfield. PSG controlled the pitch, leaving Arsenal gasping for air and desperately hanging on for a penalty shootout that they probably shouldn't have been looking forward to.

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‎ Even with PSG’s Nuno Mendes missing his strike, Arsenal couldn't capitalize. In a sequence that will surely haunt the team’s highlight reels, both Gabriel Magalhães and Eze failed to convert their attempts. PSG walked away with the win, securing back-to-back Champions League titles.

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‎The result further cements Luis Enrique’s status as a managerial titan. By securing this victory, Enrique has now bagged his third Champions League trophy in his career, adding this latest crown to the one he famously lifted during his time at the helm of FC Barcelona.

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Lupus Awareness Campaign Happens in AAUA

By Ayotomiwa Mayomi 

The Labalaba Foundation hosted a lupus awareness campaign at Adekunle Ajasin University on May 25, 2026, bringing this together individuals interested in raising awareness about lupus disease.

The campaign led by Oluwabori Ajayi, the university and outreach coordinator for the Labalaba Foundation, along with students from the university. The event aimed to highlight the consequences of lupus and promote preventive measures.

According to Oluwabori Ajayi, the primary objectives of the campaign were to create awareness, develop a supportive community, and attract government attention for further assistance. The target audiences included students, health researchers, lupus patients, health stakeholders, and families of those affected by the disease.

Health researcher Oluwabori Favour, an alumnus of Adekunle Ajasin University, identified common symptoms of lupus, explaining that it is a chronic autoimmune disease. Symptoms may include butterfly rashes, excessive fatigue, joint pain, and migraines.

A participant named Funmilayo, from criminology department, expressed her motivation for joining the initiative, indicating her concern for the societal impact of lupus and her desire to contribute to the Labalaba initiatives.

Oluwabori Ajayi also emphasized that the community is accessible for those interested in participating in awareness efforts.

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SOSSA Dean Calls for Collective Action Against Insecurity

By Musa Mercy

The Dean of the Faculty of Social Sciences at Adekunle Ajasin University, Akungba-Akoko, Prof. Adebukola Adesuyi expressed concern regarding the significant level of insecurity in Nigeria, stating that no part of the country can be regarded as truly safe.

Prof. Adesuyi stated this during the Faculty of the Social Sciences Students’ Association (SOSSA) Public Lecture and Leadership Award Series held on Thursday, May 21, 2026, at the Nelson Mandela Hall. The lecture, titled “Nigerian Security Challenge and its Politics of Blame,” gathered various public figures to discuss Nigeria’s rising security issues and explore potential solutions for addressing them.

Speaking during the lecture, Prof. Adesuyi lamented the worsening insecurity across Nigeria, noting that there was a time when people could travel, farm, and attend school without fear.

“Years ago, people could go out, people would go to school and parents will expect them to come back without any problem, people go to the farm and they will come back, those were the years, there was no insecurity, the only thing is that most parents then will say, ' Don't go out at night. ” She said. 

According to her, insecurity has now become a nationwide concern affecting every part of society regardless of ethnicity. 

“Whether you are going out in the morning now, in the afternoon, or in the night, nowhere is safe. Students went to school in the Oyo state and students as young as a kindergarten, a two-year-old baby was kidnapped, the principal of the school was slaughtered by the kidnappers.” She recounted. 

“Yesterday, I saw how a woman was being beaten mercilessly, I am not profiling any tribe because this danger has cut across every area. We cannot just say, " This thing is coming from this particular tribe, and without security, what can we achieve? Can people go to school, are we sure they will ever come back home safely? The answer is no.” She added. 

Prof. Adesuyi further commented on the tendency to attribute blame to specific ethnic groups, saying: “We have to re-strategize, this is not the time to talk about whether the Northerners are the people causing this or the southerners are folding their arms, or the people from the South-East are the root of the problem. No more time to shift blame, we just have to work on what is happening and find the lasting solution to the problems confronting this nation.”

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Students Question Nigeria’s Rising Insecurity at SOSSA Public Lecture

By Gbonjubola Olanrewaju 

Concerns regarding insecurity and citizens' rights to own arms and ammunition were central topics at a public lecture organized by the Faculty of Social Sciences at Adekunle Ajasin University, Akungba-Akoko (AAUA) on Thursday, 21st May, 2026. 

During the discussion, a student raised a question about the potential legalization of arms and ammunition for Nigerian citizens for self-protection. Another asked about proactive measures citizens can take to protect against terrorist attacks.

In response, the guest speaker, Acting Vice Chancellor of Achievers University, Professor Oyesoji Aremu, stated that while Nigerian law does not permit the general possession of arms and ammunition, it does allow for self-defense.

“The law of the nation doesn’t allow arms and ammunition but it allows for self-defence. With Knife, cutlass, I must first defend myself and live to tell the story”

He added that individuals seeking to legally possess firearms must obtain the appropriate permits required by Nigerian law. “Get a permit, as long as you are using it for the right reasons”

Professor Aremu also suggested revisiting traditional methods of protection that were employed to safeguard homes from invasion, before modernization altered these practices. 

“Let’s go back to the basis to using traditional charms just like in the old” he said.

Regarding the integration of criminals and terrorists back into society, he asserted that they should face consequences for their actions rather than being reintegrated without accountability.

“Let them suffer for their sin not integrated back to the society” he said.

He urged the Nigerian government to take proactive measures to ensure the safety of citizens, emphasizing the need for governmental intervention has the situation should not have gotten to this point.

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Nigeria Insecurity: A Major Cause of Out of School Students

By Ayomide Oguntade 

Insecurity has taken a toll on education in Nigeria. These were the words of Oyesoji Aremu, the Vice Chancellor of Achievers University, who spoke on the topic "Nigerian Security and Its Political Game" at a public lecture held by the Faculty of Social Sciences at the Nelson Mandela Hall on Thursday, May 21, 2026.

He stated that "the war against terrorism, banditry, and insurgency is not against a specific group," emphasizing how these national issues have wreaked havoc on the educational system. He specified that in the last seven years, 1,179 students have been kidnapped, and the situation of out-of-school children is now linked to banditry rather than simply begging for alms.

Speaking on the politics of blame, he highlighted how Nigerian politicians deliberately use insecurity to discredit one another, especially as elections approach.

Prof.Oyesoji identified several factors contributing to the rise of banditry in the country, including the collapse of institutional facilities, climate change, and ungoverned spaces. He proposed several solutions, which include securing ungoverned areas, reforming security governance, addressing underlying social issues, strengthening regional cooperation, and honoring and protecting our security personnel.

He also advised returning to the basics, when people coexisted harmoniously regardless of religion, and recommended providing training for future generations in the use of arms and ammunition.

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SOSSA Public Lecture & Leadership Award Series

By Ayomide Oguntade

At the Faculty of The Social Sciences public lecture held at the Nelson Mandela hall on Thursday, 21st May 2026 themed Nigerian Security Challenge and its Politics of Blame recognised the hard work of certain individuals.

Awards of leadership were given to 9 individuals including the CEO of Pramos, Mr. Olowosile Ilesanmi.

The awardees include Mr. Oluseun Onigbinde, a prominent Nigerian Civic leader and co-founder of BudgIT.

Mr. Omojowo Gowon, an alumnus of the department of political science, Adekunle Ajasin University who is also a social analyst.

Alhaji Mohammed Olawale, the executive chairman of Akoko North East local government, Ondo State and an alumnus of AAUA from the department of public administration.

Mayor Ayowole Babalola, a Nigerian Army officer with a degree in Biochemistry also from Adekunle Ajasin University, Akungba-akoko.

Dr. Raphael Abimbola, an associate professor of Mass communication and former head of department at the department of Mass communication in AAUA.

The other awardees are Adesida Taiwo, Arc. Akinbamidele Julius, and Prince Adeleke Adegbite.

The lecture had the attendance of dignitaries including the acting vice chancellor of Achievers University, Owo, Prof. Oyesoji Aremu who gave the lecture, the royal leader of Ikare-Akoko, HRM, Oba Adeleke Adegbite-Adedoyin among many others.

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AMVCA ‘26: Best Looks in Pictures

    Oluwabukunmi Adeaga-Ilori (Kiekie)

By Wahab Mariam

To celebrate the last day of the Africa Magic Viewers’ Choice Award 2026, here are 20 celebrities whose outfits stood out. 

Kiekie made a statement in a gold mermaid gown encrusted with beading and vertical fringe, finished with a wide-brimmed fascinator, epitomizing her commitment to glamour.

    Nana Akua (Nana Akua)

Nana Akua Akua showcased a unique gown made from crumpled brown paper-like material, resembling earth. The oversized off-shoulder sleeves and a skirt merging into rocks created a striking natural statement.

  Adeyemi Okanlawon

Deyemi exuded drama in a black Agbada-style coat with a crystal-encrusted upper body fading to grey-black below. He added black aviator sunglasses and a katana, creating a strikingly villainous look.

   Osariemen Martha Ighodaro (Osas Ighodaro)

Osas stunned in a silver-grey halterneck gown with a crystal-embellished bodice and a full ballgown skirt adorned with embossed rosettes. Matching silver gloves and dramatic earrings completed her luxurious look.

    Idia Aisien

Idia made a statement in a structured column dress made from watch faces, complemented by a dramatic black tulle overskirt. The look, set against a clockwork backdrop, symbolized a meditation on time.

   Opeyemi Ayanwale (Imisi)

Imisi BBNaija season 10 winner dazzled in a blush pink and silver-grey floor-length gown. The off-shoulder bodice featured intricate beadwork, while the textured skirt flowed dramatically. She accessorized with a diamond necklace, a silver bracelet, and a sleek top bun.

    Omowunmi Dada

Omowunmi wore a gold and bronze tiered gown with a nude illusion bodice adorned with gold floral appliqués. The layered pleated skirt transitioned into a sweeping train, complemented by loose, wet-look waves and a simple bracelet.

    Toyin Abraham Ajeyemi (Toyin Abraham)

Toyin Abraham stood out in a sculptural black ball gown, featuring a strapless silhouette and a voluminous skirt that revealed champagne-gold layers. Her sheer gold fringe collar and crystal embellishments added a fierce touch, complemented by a gilded branch accessory.

    Bisola Ayeola (Bisola Ayeola)

Bisola Ayeola opted for a copper-bronze mermaid gown made from crinkled metallic fabric. The off-shoulder design featured oversized puff sleeves and a black bead cluster at the waist, paired with gold drop earrings and a slicked-back updo.

    Stanley Ebuka Nzediegwu (Stan Nze)

Stan Nze wore a black agbada-style coat with intricate beaded details and topped it with a beaded cap featuring silver leopard motifs. He completed the look with statement rings and a circular branded hat.

    Kolapo "Kola" Omotoso (Kola – BBNaija)

Kola BBNaija season 10 contestant kept it classic in a tailored black tuxedo with a black bow tie and white dress shirt. A crystal floral brooch and crisp white pocket square added charm, while dark sunglasses gave it an air of cool sophistication.

    Mimie

Mimie embraced high drama in a full black feather gown with a mermaid cut. The all-feather design, paired with a feathered headpiece, created a striking woodland creature aesthetic against a backdrop of dried leaves.

    Anita Singh (Nini)

Nini BBNaija season 6 showcased a strapless cobalt blue velvet mermaid gown embellished with ostrich feathers and accented by pink feathers. She wore a matching glove and chandelier earrings, with her look set against a dramatic crimson backdrop.

    Erica Ngozi Nlewedim 

Erica dazzled in a burgundy velvet off-shoulder gown with a structured bodice and a sheer tulle skirt featuring pom-pom embellishments and gold spokes, evoking a sunburst. A matching spiked headpiece complemented the look, while a bold green and white necklace added contrast.

   Doyinsola Anuoluwapo (Doyin)

Doyin appeared in a digitally enhanced image, donned in a gold scale-patterned mermaid gown with a deep V-neck and wing-like bust details. The hem transitioned into large golden feathers as her red hair billowed dramatically around her.

    Roseline Omokhoa Afije (Liquorose)

Liquorose wore a sheer nude gown accented with white swirl appliqués and a voluminous white satin skirt, styled to look ethereal against a misty backdrop. Her hair was elegantly braided in a tall updo.

    Kennie

Kennie sported a rich burgundy velvet suit with structured shoulders and a champagne-gold lapel, complemented by a black velvet bow tie and gold cufflinks for a polished retro vibe.

    Bright Morgan

Bright Morgan wore a striking black double-breasted suit embellished with crystal scrollwork, paired with a white dress shirt and statement rings, creating a regal appearance.

   Eniola Ajao

Eniola Ajao's ambitious gown, crafted from gold-painted balloons, featured dramatic balloon sleeves and a body-con silhouette that fanned out into a balloon train, art and fashion combined.

    Simi Drey

Simi Drey closed the gallery in a shimmering column gown of silver mirror tiles, adorned with beaded leaf appliques, complemented by a crystal-encrusted headpiece and a moody backdrop for a commanding presence.

cc: Instagram

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